How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill & Their Caregivers by Toni Bernhard needs to be part of your health library. Despite pre-ordering the book before its release last fall it lingered on my "to be read shelf" until after the new year. But once I got started I just couldn't put it down.
Like a lot of other mindfulness-oriented books it offers plenty of ideas to get you thinking about your life and your situation in a different way. Unlike so many other books, however, it's also filled with concrete suggestions for how to change your thinking to alleviate the suffering that so often accompanies illness and pain, including the pain associated with mental health issues. The practices she describes are incredibly relatable because Toni illustrates how she uses the techniques and how they came about.
Toni does a wonderful job introducing the concepts that underlie Buddhism while making it clear that it's not necessary to identify as Buddhist to use and benefit from the techniques. Despite being a fairly small book, it's actually a great primer on Buddhism for those who are new to the belief system and want to learn more about it specifically in the context of their health challenges and concerns.
To me this is the best kind of book because it's incredibly enjoyable to read straight though and continues to be helpful for a long time after because you can return to it when you're struggling and need some inspiration to tweak your approach to a difficult situation. This book brought together all the teaching I've been exposed to and helped the concepts click for me for the first time. I know I'm going to be returning to this over & over again as I have those "I can't cope" moments and need to remind myself of how I can manage those thoughts and fears.
You can learn more about Toni and her book at her website, How to Be Sick.
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Monday, February 28, 2011
Friday, February 25, 2011
Equanimity is A Process
When you're facing illness or pain, coming to face it with equanimity is a process. While I've made great strides in the process of meeting myself where I am, I need some work on meeting others where they are.
Teacher Shinzen Young (check out his awesome book/CD combo Break Through Pain) says this about equanimity:
Sometimes I get so frustrated when someone laments his or her health in a "poor me, why me" way. Like I've never done that or something! In some ways my tendency is to have more compassion for other people than I have for myself, but I'm also incredibly judgmental and impatient. This has been an 8 year process for me to get where I am today. It may take someone else less time or more time. There is no right time to become more comfortable with what feels like an unbearable situation. Your time frame is your time frame, and I have to learn to respect it.
What I can do is share with others what has helped me in hopes it might help them. I can offer support and empathy. I can show patience even when it's hard to do so. I can have compassion. And I can feel grateful that I'm not suffering as much as I once did now that I know I have a choice in suffering even if I don't have a choice about feeling physical or emotional pain.
How to you remind yourself to treat others with the kind of patience and compassion you wish you receive?
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Teacher Shinzen Young (check out his awesome book/CD combo Break Through Pain) says this about equanimity:
It's radical noninterference with the natural flow of sensory experience. If you have emotions in the body you don't push them down, but you don't latch on to them inappropriately, either.
Another way of looking at it is training your sensory circuits not to interfere with themselves.
Equanimity is a fundamental skill for self-exploration and emotional intelligence. It is a deep and subtle concept frequently misunderstood and easily confused with suppression of feeling, apathy or inexpressiveness.
Equanimity comes from the Latin word aequus meaning balanced, and animus meaning spirit or internal state.
Sometimes I get so frustrated when someone laments his or her health in a "poor me, why me" way. Like I've never done that or something! In some ways my tendency is to have more compassion for other people than I have for myself, but I'm also incredibly judgmental and impatient. This has been an 8 year process for me to get where I am today. It may take someone else less time or more time. There is no right time to become more comfortable with what feels like an unbearable situation. Your time frame is your time frame, and I have to learn to respect it.
What I can do is share with others what has helped me in hopes it might help them. I can offer support and empathy. I can show patience even when it's hard to do so. I can have compassion. And I can feel grateful that I'm not suffering as much as I once did now that I know I have a choice in suffering even if I don't have a choice about feeling physical or emotional pain.
How to you remind yourself to treat others with the kind of patience and compassion you wish you receive?
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Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Migraine Chat Tonight at 6 pm CT
Join us tonight for Migraine Chat at 6 pm CT. Everyone is welcome. We meet up every Wednesday evening from 6 - 7 pm CT in a password protected chat room on Chatzy and talk about what's going on with us and ask each other questions about different experiences and treatments. It's a great group. I'd love to see you there!
For more details visit: Migraine Chat.
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For more details visit: Migraine Chat.
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Chocolate & Vicodin: A New Migraine & Headache Memoir
Writer Jennette Fulda and I met at the patient blogging session at BlogHer 09 in Chicago. We've kept in touch since, particularly on the ChronicBabe forums, so I was thrilled to learn about her new book, a memoir about living with chronic headaches, Chocolate & Vicodin: My Quest for Relief From the Headache That Wouldn't Go Away. Yep, she's one of us: a fellow chronic headache sufferer. Lucky, lucky girl.
I've had the pleasure of reading her funny, smart book, and I want you to have the same opportunity. Jennette and her publisher have generously agreed to give away a copy of Chocolate & Vicodin to one of my readers. To enter post a comment on this blog about what you'd say in a migraine or headache memoir if you wrote something like this. Please don't forget to include an email address where I can contact you. Deadline: Wednesday, March 9, 2011, at 11:59 pm CT.
To give you all the opportunity to learn more about Jennette I pitched her a few questions and got her answers. Enjoy!
Question: In your first book, Half-Asssed, you chronicled your weight loss journey. Has living with chronic headaches impacted your ability to maintain your weight loss? How have you balanced these competing issues? Are you able to exercise?
Answer: Chronic pain reorganizes your priorities. Before I had my headache, eating well and exercising was one of my top three priorities in life. After I got my headache, it got bumped down the list after "getting out of bed" and "making it through the work day."
Since I got my headache, I've regained about 50 pounds. I don't know if I would have regained weight without the headache, but it's possible since most people who lose a significant amount of weight gain back at least part of it at one time or another. I definitely think I regained more because of the headache. I had never thought of myself as a food addict before my illness, but once I was in chronic pain it became obvious that I was using food as a drug since none of the other drugs worked. Food was one of the only things that made me feel better.
In the past year I've been maintaining my weight, so I think I've learned to balance my dueling goals of feeling better by eating and feeling better by living healthy. Fortunately my pain doesn't affect my physical ability to exercise, though it does sometimes affect my mental resolve to do so.
Question: What's been the hardest aspect of living with chronic daily headaches?
Answer: The hardest thing has been that my disease doesn't have a name or easy label that people understand. Almost no one gets what I'm going through. If I were diabetic or had multiple sclerosis I could give people the name of my illness and they'd have a good idea of what I was facing and what my treatment options are. When I tell people I've had a headache for three years they give me a look like, "Seriously? That happens to people? Have you tried Excedrin?"
Almost everyone has had a headache in their lives, so everyone has advice for me. They have good intentions, and I appreciate their concern, but most remedies people suggest are useless. They also assume my headache is being caused by something else, like a brain tumor or a dead twin living in my brain, when in reality 90% of headaches are primary, meaning the headache is the problem itself and not a symptom of something else.
Question: What are your favorite methods for coping with daily pain?
Answer: Ice cream, lots of ice cream :) Ok, that's not true anymore, but if you'd asked me two years ago it would have been my first answer. Now my neurologist and I have found a good mix of medications that keep my pain down to a 1 out of 5 most days. I also do behavioral things, like maintaining a regular sleep schedule, watching my caffeine intake and avoiding artificial sweeteners (though I haven't eliminated them completely). My headache will still ramp up when I'm stressed or if I've been at the computer too long, so I try to remember to take breaks and do breathing exercises to relax my muscles. I don't do that as much as I should, though.
One of the best things I did to cope with my pain was quit my full-time job and start freelancing as a writer and web designer full time. I'm able to set my own schedule and lay on the couch if my head hurts instead of pretending to do work in an office.
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Jennette Fulda went to bed on February 17, 2008, with a headache, and more than three years later, it still hasn’t gone away. Yes, she’s tried everything: intravenous drugs, chiropractic adjustments, acupuncture, subliminal messaging, marijuana (for medical purposes only), heavy drinking (which just made it hurt more), and lots and lots of chocolate. A pint of ice cream makes her feel better, but her insurance doesn’t cover mint chocolate chip.
I've had the pleasure of reading her funny, smart book, and I want you to have the same opportunity. Jennette and her publisher have generously agreed to give away a copy of Chocolate & Vicodin to one of my readers. To enter post a comment on this blog about what you'd say in a migraine or headache memoir if you wrote something like this. Please don't forget to include an email address where I can contact you. Deadline: Wednesday, March 9, 2011, at 11:59 pm CT.
To give you all the opportunity to learn more about Jennette I pitched her a few questions and got her answers. Enjoy!
Question: In your first book, Half-Asssed, you chronicled your weight loss journey. Has living with chronic headaches impacted your ability to maintain your weight loss? How have you balanced these competing issues? Are you able to exercise?
Answer: Chronic pain reorganizes your priorities. Before I had my headache, eating well and exercising was one of my top three priorities in life. After I got my headache, it got bumped down the list after "getting out of bed" and "making it through the work day."
Since I got my headache, I've regained about 50 pounds. I don't know if I would have regained weight without the headache, but it's possible since most people who lose a significant amount of weight gain back at least part of it at one time or another. I definitely think I regained more because of the headache. I had never thought of myself as a food addict before my illness, but once I was in chronic pain it became obvious that I was using food as a drug since none of the other drugs worked. Food was one of the only things that made me feel better.
In the past year I've been maintaining my weight, so I think I've learned to balance my dueling goals of feeling better by eating and feeling better by living healthy. Fortunately my pain doesn't affect my physical ability to exercise, though it does sometimes affect my mental resolve to do so.
Question: What's been the hardest aspect of living with chronic daily headaches?
Answer: The hardest thing has been that my disease doesn't have a name or easy label that people understand. Almost no one gets what I'm going through. If I were diabetic or had multiple sclerosis I could give people the name of my illness and they'd have a good idea of what I was facing and what my treatment options are. When I tell people I've had a headache for three years they give me a look like, "Seriously? That happens to people? Have you tried Excedrin?"
Almost everyone has had a headache in their lives, so everyone has advice for me. They have good intentions, and I appreciate their concern, but most remedies people suggest are useless. They also assume my headache is being caused by something else, like a brain tumor or a dead twin living in my brain, when in reality 90% of headaches are primary, meaning the headache is the problem itself and not a symptom of something else.
Question: What are your favorite methods for coping with daily pain?
Answer: Ice cream, lots of ice cream :) Ok, that's not true anymore, but if you'd asked me two years ago it would have been my first answer. Now my neurologist and I have found a good mix of medications that keep my pain down to a 1 out of 5 most days. I also do behavioral things, like maintaining a regular sleep schedule, watching my caffeine intake and avoiding artificial sweeteners (though I haven't eliminated them completely). My headache will still ramp up when I'm stressed or if I've been at the computer too long, so I try to remember to take breaks and do breathing exercises to relax my muscles. I don't do that as much as I should, though.
One of the best things I did to cope with my pain was quit my full-time job and start freelancing as a writer and web designer full time. I'm able to set my own schedule and lay on the couch if my head hurts instead of pretending to do work in an office.
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Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Announcing March 2011 Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival
The theme of the March 2011 Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival will be "Life Hacks: Tweaking Work & Life to Deal with Migraines." As always, feel free to interpret this topic however you like.
Entries are due by midnight (the end of the day) on Friday, March 11, 2011. The carnival will be published by Emily at No Extended Warranty on Monday, March 14, 2011.
Feel free to post comments or contact me directly to ask any questions you might have. Please spread the word to any migraine or headache, pain or chronic illness bloggers you know and consider posting an announcement on your own blog if you have one.
For more information about the carnival please visit the main carnival page: Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival.
Thank you for your continued support of the Headache and Migraine Disease Blog Carnival!
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Content by Diana E. Lee.
DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Entries are due by midnight (the end of the day) on Friday, March 11, 2011. The carnival will be published by Emily at No Extended Warranty on Monday, March 14, 2011.
Feel free to post comments or contact me directly to ask any questions you might have. Please spread the word to any migraine or headache, pain or chronic illness bloggers you know and consider posting an announcement on your own blog if you have one.
For more information about the carnival please visit the main carnival page: Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival.
Thank you for your continued support of the Headache and Migraine Disease Blog Carnival!
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Monday, February 21, 2011
Pre-Existing Conditions Plan: Stupidly Restrictive
I've been reading up on the Pre-Existing Condition Insurance Plan provided for under the health care reform legislation passed by Congress in 2010. In theory it's an important and great idea: to provide a safety net that allows people who have been rejected by insurance carriers due to pre-existing health conditions to buy insurance at rates comparable to those paid by healthy people. Unfortunately there are some really stupid, restrictive rules.
To be eligible to apply you must have been without health insurance coverage for six months. This is similar to the gap built in to Medicare as it applies to disabled people that requires them to wait two years after being approved for Social Security Disability benefits before they become eligible for Medicare. Because when you are so sick you're unable to hold a job it's so common to have health insurance from some other source.
These delays lead to catastrophic consequences for people's health and financial stability. If you have a pre-existing condition you most likely need treatment for that condition. After all, that's why insurance companies have refused to cover you: you'll be too expensive. So now a program that's supposed to fill the gap while we wait for the law prohibiting insurance companies from discriminating on the basis of pre-existing conditions to take effect leaves yet another gap for people who already have compromised health. Six months for your diabetes, heart disease or arthritis to go largely untreated. This not only harms the individual, it drives up the cost of health care for everyone by leaving treatable conditions undertreated, creating a need for more expensive interventions down the line. It's frustrating and mind boggling.
Source:
Pre-Existing Condition Insurance Plan: Questions & Answers
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To be eligible to apply you must have been without health insurance coverage for six months. This is similar to the gap built in to Medicare as it applies to disabled people that requires them to wait two years after being approved for Social Security Disability benefits before they become eligible for Medicare. Because when you are so sick you're unable to hold a job it's so common to have health insurance from some other source.
These delays lead to catastrophic consequences for people's health and financial stability. If you have a pre-existing condition you most likely need treatment for that condition. After all, that's why insurance companies have refused to cover you: you'll be too expensive. So now a program that's supposed to fill the gap while we wait for the law prohibiting insurance companies from discriminating on the basis of pre-existing conditions to take effect leaves yet another gap for people who already have compromised health. Six months for your diabetes, heart disease or arthritis to go largely untreated. This not only harms the individual, it drives up the cost of health care for everyone by leaving treatable conditions undertreated, creating a need for more expensive interventions down the line. It's frustrating and mind boggling.
Source:
Pre-Existing Condition Insurance Plan: Questions & Answers
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Friday, February 18, 2011
Act Now to Protect Funding for Migraine Research
Today the House of Representatives is debating a $1.6 billion cut to the National Institutes of Health budget. This is a serious threat to our prospects for improved therapies for migraine and other disabling headache disorders. Migraine disease alone impacts 12% of Americans, but the NIH budget for research on migraine and other headache disorders is less than one tenth of one percent of the entire NIH budget. With this kind of proposed cut funding for our disorders could be completely eliminated. Please take action. It's quick and easy. Just follow the link. Please share this with your family & friends.
Alliance for Headache Disorders Advocacy Action Alert
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Alliance for Headache Disorders Advocacy Action Alert
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My Secret: A Gift to Child Migraineurs
As someone who started having migraines somewhere around age 6, child migraineurs have a very special place in my heart. Gretchen Rautman (There Be Migraines Here), a lifelong migraineur who has lived with chronic migraine disease for many years, has written a lovely little children's book about living in pain from a child's perspective.
My Secret by Gretchen Rautman
There aren't many resources out there for parents to help their children cope with a life filled with pain and disease. Luckily not very many kids need this kind of thing. But for those who do, this book is a godsend. Being in constant pain makes you feel like a freak. For children, who don't yet have the life experiences to cope with being different, it's so much worse. It's scary and isolating. To have access to this book is to be understood and acknowledged. It's the perfect opening to some hard conversations with a child migraineur about their experiences and feelings. It is important to talk to kids about their pain. Ignoring it is not a good strategy. A book like this is a wonderful thing. Even better, all proceeds from sale of the book go to the Migraine Research Foundation.
We're giving away one paper copy of this book (it's also available for digital download) to a Somebody Heal Me reader. To be entered leave a comment on this post telling us about the child migraineur in your life who would benefit from this book. The contest will run until midnight (the end of the day) on Friday, March 4, 2011. To be eligible you must leave me a way to contact you, preferably an email address. Good luck!
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My Secret by Gretchen Rautman
There aren't many resources out there for parents to help their children cope with a life filled with pain and disease. Luckily not very many kids need this kind of thing. But for those who do, this book is a godsend. Being in constant pain makes you feel like a freak. For children, who don't yet have the life experiences to cope with being different, it's so much worse. It's scary and isolating. To have access to this book is to be understood and acknowledged. It's the perfect opening to some hard conversations with a child migraineur about their experiences and feelings. It is important to talk to kids about their pain. Ignoring it is not a good strategy. A book like this is a wonderful thing. Even better, all proceeds from sale of the book go to the Migraine Research Foundation.
We're giving away one paper copy of this book (it's also available for digital download) to a Somebody Heal Me reader. To be entered leave a comment on this post telling us about the child migraineur in your life who would benefit from this book. The contest will run until midnight (the end of the day) on Friday, March 4, 2011. To be eligible you must leave me a way to contact you, preferably an email address. Good luck!
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Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Migraine Chat Tonight & Every Wednesday
Make plans to join us tonight for the new & improved Migraine Chat. Every Wednesday from 6 pm - 7 pm CT I'm hosting a Migraine Chat in a private room on Chatzy. This allows us to speak more freely because our messages aren't sent out to all of our Twitter followers and makes it possible for people who don't use Twitter to easily participate. We've been having some really nice conversations. I've met new people and really enjoyed interacting with them and existing friends.
To participate go to: Chatzy Migraine Chat
(Remember to bookmark the link for the future. It will be the same every week.)
Enter password: somebodyhealme
When: Wednesdays, 6 -7 pm CT
Please spread the word to your fellow migraineurs. Hope to see you there!
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To participate go to: Chatzy Migraine Chat
(Remember to bookmark the link for the future. It will be the same every week.)
Enter password: somebodyhealme
When: Wednesdays, 6 -7 pm CT
Please spread the word to your fellow migraineurs. Hope to see you there!
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2011 Migraine Poetry Contest
While some of us feel most comfortable expressing ourselves through blogging and journaling about our lives (that's me), there are wonderfully creative migraineurs among us who find poetry to be a cathartic method of self expression. Creative writing holds great power to promote understanding and healing when shared with others. To that end it's time for the annual Migraine Poetry Contest.
Enter Our Migraine Poetry Contest Now
Whether you're an experienced poet or new to the craft consider putting pen to paper and see what you come up with. The guidelines and contest rules are broad, so don't worry much about whether your lines or verses need to match certain parameters unless you enjoy doing so. Submissions are due by midnight on Tuesday, March 15, 2011, so you've got plenty of time to play around and see what you can come up with. Have fun with it!
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Enter Our Migraine Poetry Contest Now
Whether you're an experienced poet or new to the craft consider putting pen to paper and see what you come up with. The guidelines and contest rules are broad, so don't worry much about whether your lines or verses need to match certain parameters unless you enjoy doing so. Submissions are due by midnight on Tuesday, March 15, 2011, so you've got plenty of time to play around and see what you can come up with. Have fun with it!
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Monday, February 14, 2011
Migraines & Romantic Relationships: February 2011 Headache Blog Carnival
Welcome to the February 2011 Headache and Migraine Disease Blog Carnival. Happy Valentine's Day.
The Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival has been created to provide both headache patients and people who blog about headaches with opportunities to share ideas on topics of particular interest and importance to us.
The theme of the February carnival is "Romantic Relationships & Migraines: How are they affected? Is is possible to build a new one? Does anything about living with a chronic condition bring you closer?"
In the past I've blathered on and on how great my husband is. We're very lucky to have each other. And I'm not gonna lie: I'm incredibly thankful I'd locked him down before my migraines became this bad. I honestly can't imagine trying to date while feeling and living like this. It would be hard to find the kind of person who will invest their time in you even when you don't have much (if anything) to give. While I do try hard to reciprocate, I know it's hard for him to have the burden of being the primary breadwinner and housekeeper.
We don't always get along, but the truth is that it usually has very little to do with my illnesses. Where those are concerned he's great. Understanding, supportive, accommodating, loving, kind. Unfortunately chronic illnesses often end marriages. I can understand why, but my situation has brought us together and made us work harder and appreciate each other more. I couldn't ever say my health situation is a good thing, but good things have arisen out of it.
Please read on for this month's collection of posts.
Sharon shared Migraines & Marriage posted at Pouring Out My Insides.
Migrainista shared A Different Kind of Romance posted at Migrainista.
Kelly shared Does Chronic Illness Define Us As a Couple? posted at Fly with Hope.
Teri Robert shared Migraines & Heart Health posted at Migraine.com.
Jamie Valendy shared Romantic Relationships & Migraines posted at Chronic Migraine Warrior.
James Cottrill shared Vasodilation & Migraine: The Fail of a Theory posted at Headache & Migraine News Blog.
Thanks for all the wonderful posts on a very personal topic. I hope by sharing with each other we can see we're not alone in the things we deal with every day.
Submit your blog post to the March 2011 edition of the Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival using our carnival submission form or by sending your submissions to me by email (Unfortunately some of us have had problems with the submission form on the site from time to time. If you do please just send your post to me by email. I apologize in advance for any inconvenience). The theme will be "Life Hacks: Tweaking Work & Life to Deal with Migraines." Submissions are due by midnight on Friday, March 11. The March carnival will be published by Emily at No Extended Warranty on Monday, March 14.
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
The Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival has been created to provide both headache patients and people who blog about headaches with opportunities to share ideas on topics of particular interest and importance to us.
The theme of the February carnival is "Romantic Relationships & Migraines: How are they affected? Is is possible to build a new one? Does anything about living with a chronic condition bring you closer?"
In the past I've blathered on and on how great my husband is. We're very lucky to have each other. And I'm not gonna lie: I'm incredibly thankful I'd locked him down before my migraines became this bad. I honestly can't imagine trying to date while feeling and living like this. It would be hard to find the kind of person who will invest their time in you even when you don't have much (if anything) to give. While I do try hard to reciprocate, I know it's hard for him to have the burden of being the primary breadwinner and housekeeper.
We don't always get along, but the truth is that it usually has very little to do with my illnesses. Where those are concerned he's great. Understanding, supportive, accommodating, loving, kind. Unfortunately chronic illnesses often end marriages. I can understand why, but my situation has brought us together and made us work harder and appreciate each other more. I couldn't ever say my health situation is a good thing, but good things have arisen out of it.
Please read on for this month's collection of posts.
Sharon shared Migraines & Marriage posted at Pouring Out My Insides.
Migrainista shared A Different Kind of Romance posted at Migrainista.
Kelly shared Does Chronic Illness Define Us As a Couple? posted at Fly with Hope.
Teri Robert shared Migraines & Heart Health posted at Migraine.com.
Jamie Valendy shared Romantic Relationships & Migraines posted at Chronic Migraine Warrior.
James Cottrill shared Vasodilation & Migraine: The Fail of a Theory posted at Headache & Migraine News Blog.
Thanks for all the wonderful posts on a very personal topic. I hope by sharing with each other we can see we're not alone in the things we deal with every day.
Submit your blog post to the March 2011 edition of the Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival using our carnival submission form or by sending your submissions to me by email (Unfortunately some of us have had problems with the submission form on the site from time to time. If you do please just send your post to me by email. I apologize in advance for any inconvenience). The theme will be "Life Hacks: Tweaking Work & Life to Deal with Migraines." Submissions are due by midnight on Friday, March 11. The March carnival will be published by Emily at No Extended Warranty on Monday, March 14.
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Last Call: February 2011 Headache & Migraine Blog Carnival
Please don't forget tomorrow is the deadline for submissions to the February 2011 Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival.
Submit your blog article using our carnival submission form or by emailing your submissions directly to me. The theme is: "Romantic Relationships & Migraines: How are they affected? Is is possible to build a new one? Does anything about living with a chronic condition bring you closer?"
Entries are due by midnight (the end of the day) tomorrow, Friday, February 11, and the carnival will be posted right here at Somebody Heal Me on Monday, February 14.
Please let me know if you are interested in hosting a future edition. Contact me any time with questions, suggestions or ideas for themes. I'm always looking for help with the carnival. Don't hesitate to post a comment or email me with questions.
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Submit your blog article using our carnival submission form or by emailing your submissions directly to me. The theme is: "Romantic Relationships & Migraines: How are they affected? Is is possible to build a new one? Does anything about living with a chronic condition bring you closer?"
Entries are due by midnight (the end of the day) tomorrow, Friday, February 11, and the carnival will be posted right here at Somebody Heal Me on Monday, February 14.
Please let me know if you are interested in hosting a future edition. Contact me any time with questions, suggestions or ideas for themes. I'm always looking for help with the carnival. Don't hesitate to post a comment or email me with questions.
Subscribe to the Somebody Heal Me feed: Subscribe in a reader or subscribe by e-mail. Follow me on Twitter @somebodyhealme.
DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Monday, February 07, 2011
Slow Cookers: A Chronically Ill Person's Best Friend
Getting meals together is a constant struggle for us, as I'm sure it is for many of you. It's hard to plan ahead when you don't know how you'll be feeling from day to day. While I love to cook, it zaps my energy. If I plan too many complicated meals and don't feel up to cooking them we're in a world of hurt if we don't have something my husband can throw together. One of the best solutions for us has been the slow cooker.
We've had one for years, but have been bad about remembering to use it. But I recently made a meal that was so good and so easy that I just had to write about it. I bought a two pound beef roast at the grocery store. I prepared it by (1) salting and peppering all sides of the roast, (2) sprinkling a packet of onion soup mix over the meat and (3) pouring a 14.5 ounce can of beef broth into the bottom of the slow cooker. I cooked it on high for five-and-a-half hours. It was perfection. To round out the meal we steamed some frozen broccoli florets, made some mashed Yukon Gold potatoes and a prepared a gravy by whisking a little cornstarch and water together with the drippings from the slow cooker. So easy and so delicious! Since it's just the two of us it leaves us with a nice amount of leftovers, too, which is always nice.
I like to make our Perfect Ground Beef & Sausage Chili in the slower cooker, and I've made some awesome pork and chicken recipes (Easy Pork Carnitas, Slow-Cooked Tex Mex Chicken & Beans) using similar methods. It's an especially great way to prepare pulled meat for tacos or sandwiches. Just some chicken breasts or pork loin and barbecue sauce thrown together in a slow cooker would make a great sandwich for dinner at the end of a busy day.
By the way, those disposable slow cooker liners are a great time and energy saver for those of us with chronic illnesses. I probably would never have tried them, but my mom bought me some and they're pretty darned awesome.
What do you like to make in your slow cooker? Any favorite recipes to share? Does using one make your chronic life a little bit easier?
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We've had one for years, but have been bad about remembering to use it. But I recently made a meal that was so good and so easy that I just had to write about it. I bought a two pound beef roast at the grocery store. I prepared it by (1) salting and peppering all sides of the roast, (2) sprinkling a packet of onion soup mix over the meat and (3) pouring a 14.5 ounce can of beef broth into the bottom of the slow cooker. I cooked it on high for five-and-a-half hours. It was perfection. To round out the meal we steamed some frozen broccoli florets, made some mashed Yukon Gold potatoes and a prepared a gravy by whisking a little cornstarch and water together with the drippings from the slow cooker. So easy and so delicious! Since it's just the two of us it leaves us with a nice amount of leftovers, too, which is always nice.
I like to make our Perfect Ground Beef & Sausage Chili in the slower cooker, and I've made some awesome pork and chicken recipes (Easy Pork Carnitas, Slow-Cooked Tex Mex Chicken & Beans) using similar methods. It's an especially great way to prepare pulled meat for tacos or sandwiches. Just some chicken breasts or pork loin and barbecue sauce thrown together in a slow cooker would make a great sandwich for dinner at the end of a busy day.
By the way, those disposable slow cooker liners are a great time and energy saver for those of us with chronic illnesses. I probably would never have tried them, but my mom bought me some and they're pretty darned awesome.
What do you like to make in your slow cooker? Any favorite recipes to share? Does using one make your chronic life a little bit easier?
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Friday, February 04, 2011
Updated Recommended Reading List
I recently spent some time updating my recommended reading page on the blog. I added some books to the list and prioritized the titles to set apart a few that I feel are particularly essential and have played a significant role in my life.
Good Reads
What do you think of these choices? Agree? Disagree? Have other titles to suggest? I'd love to hear your thoughts!
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Good Reads
What do you think of these choices? Agree? Disagree? Have other titles to suggest? I'd love to hear your thoughts!
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Thursday, February 03, 2011
Struggling & Depression Seem to Go Hand in Hand
Even though I go through periods of managing quite well with my depression, more often than I care to admit I'm struggling. I know what helps me manage, and I know I'm not doing all those things. Clearly getting back to some of the strategies that keep me functioning well has to be a priority. But how in the world do I do it? Everything little thing feels overwhelming and seems out of reach.
I feel like I'm stuck. Knowing what you need to do and making yourself do it are two totally different things. I do feel lucky that I can recognize depressive behaviors in myself now. For years I would just ignore really worrisome behavior and shuffle along with my head down. So I'm giving myself credit for being able to admit things aren't going well and for telling my loved ones that I'm struggling.
I came across what seems like an interesting, helpful book on Amazon.com called Get It Done When You're Depressed. I downloaded the first chapter for free and it looks like exactly what I need: a kick in the pants to encourage me to do what I know I need to do. I have all the tools in place, but they aren't doing me any good if I'm not using them. I'm going to get a copy of this book and work on doing what the author encourages. I don't want to keep living with what feels like an elephant sitting on my chest.
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I feel like I'm stuck. Knowing what you need to do and making yourself do it are two totally different things. I do feel lucky that I can recognize depressive behaviors in myself now. For years I would just ignore really worrisome behavior and shuffle along with my head down. So I'm giving myself credit for being able to admit things aren't going well and for telling my loved ones that I'm struggling.
I came across what seems like an interesting, helpful book on Amazon.com called Get It Done When You're Depressed. I downloaded the first chapter for free and it looks like exactly what I need: a kick in the pants to encourage me to do what I know I need to do. I have all the tools in place, but they aren't doing me any good if I'm not using them. I'm going to get a copy of this book and work on doing what the author encourages. I don't want to keep living with what feels like an elephant sitting on my chest.
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Wednesday, February 02, 2011
Does the NBA 'Get' Migraines?
Sports journalists spent the week discussing Dwyane Wade's migraines and his decision to try wearing goggles to deal with light sensitivity. News outlets like ESPN proved once again they know how to treat migraine disease as a serious, burdensome medical issue in reporting on Wade's health situation. But somehow at the eleventh hour the story got way more complicated and the NBA revealed they don't quite "get" migraines.
NBA Bans Dwyane Wade's Migraine Goggles
Dwyane Wade has lived with migraines for many years. They usually don't interfere with his job playing professional basketball for the Miami Heat, but this week they did. He missed a game due to a lengthy migraine attack and found himself dealing with lingering light sensitivity and visual disturbances. By trial and error in practice he found that tinted goggles were helpful in allowing him to play without making his head worse. He announced he would play in the goggles in Thursday night's game. But just before game time the NBA said he couldn't. When the NBA officials examined the goggles they said they would give Wade an advantage by making it impossible for opposing players to see his eyes.
In fairness, headline writers may have tried to create controversy where there really wasn't any: the Heat found Wade a different pair of goggles to use and the NBA approved them. Unfortunately, that pair seemed to interfere with his ability to play more than they might have helped.
But seriously, what's the problem, NBA? The goggles were so heavily tinted opposing players wouldn't be able to see his eyes, which would give him a competitive advantage? He's trying to find a workable solution to a medical problem. Would it have been so hard to permit him an exception for his health condition and allow him to wear the goggles he'd been practicing in? That pair had a host of benefits: he knew their tint was sufficient to help with the light sensitivity, how they fit, how it felt to have them on his face and that they were comfortable enough to be worn while he played.
Unfortunately their lame-o reaction is similar to what people experience every single day when their migraines make it difficult for them to do their work. I know the NBA doesn't owe any of us anything, but their bad decision is a depressing reminder of how misunderstood migraines and all their nasty symptoms can be.
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
NBA Bans Dwyane Wade's Migraine Goggles
Dwyane Wade has lived with migraines for many years. They usually don't interfere with his job playing professional basketball for the Miami Heat, but this week they did. He missed a game due to a lengthy migraine attack and found himself dealing with lingering light sensitivity and visual disturbances. By trial and error in practice he found that tinted goggles were helpful in allowing him to play without making his head worse. He announced he would play in the goggles in Thursday night's game. But just before game time the NBA said he couldn't. When the NBA officials examined the goggles they said they would give Wade an advantage by making it impossible for opposing players to see his eyes.
In fairness, headline writers may have tried to create controversy where there really wasn't any: the Heat found Wade a different pair of goggles to use and the NBA approved them. Unfortunately, that pair seemed to interfere with his ability to play more than they might have helped.
But seriously, what's the problem, NBA? The goggles were so heavily tinted opposing players wouldn't be able to see his eyes, which would give him a competitive advantage? He's trying to find a workable solution to a medical problem. Would it have been so hard to permit him an exception for his health condition and allow him to wear the goggles he'd been practicing in? That pair had a host of benefits: he knew their tint was sufficient to help with the light sensitivity, how they fit, how it felt to have them on his face and that they were comfortable enough to be worn while he played.
Unfortunately their lame-o reaction is similar to what people experience every single day when their migraines make it difficult for them to do their work. I know the NBA doesn't owe any of us anything, but their bad decision is a depressing reminder of how misunderstood migraines and all their nasty symptoms can be.
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
Tuesday, February 01, 2011
Migraine Chat: This & Every Wednesday at 6 pm CT
We're now doing Migraine Chat every Wednesday from 6 pm - 7 pm CT in a private room on Chatzy. This allows us to speak more freely because our messages aren't sent out to all of our followers and makes it possible for people who don't use Twitter to easily participate.
To participate go to: Chatzy Migraine Chat
(Remember to bookmark the link for the future. It will be the same every week.)
Enter password: somebodyhealme
When: Wednesdays at 6 pm CT
Hope to see you there tomorrow night!
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DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
To participate go to: Chatzy Migraine Chat
(Remember to bookmark the link for the future. It will be the same every week.)
Enter password: somebodyhealme
When: Wednesdays at 6 pm CT
Hope to see you there tomorrow night!
Subscribe to the Somebody Heal Me feed: Subscribe in a reader or subscribe by e-mail. Follow me on Twitter @somebodyhealme.
DISCLAIMER: Nothing on this site constitutes medical or legal advice. I am a patient who is engaged and educated and enjoys sharing my experiences and news about migraines, pain and depression. Please consult your own health care providers for advice on your unique situation.
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